Love Being Family

The inspection of our family brings with it a whole host of different connections. Connections most would rather ignore or explain-away as too complicated. With the big ‘P’ for Politics and the big ‘R’s for Religion, Race and Gender fighting for the top spot in the media. Any mention of masculine or feminine is sure to frighten away any individual who dares to enter this arena. However, ignoring these very important areas of our lives, or even the lives of our loved ones, is a disaster waiting to happen, one which will not stop the heart loving or hating anyone who differs from them – even slightly. Only a post code, village or town away is enough for the human race to become territorial. So, how do we tackle these issues without causing what could be, World War III?

When we own our issues, the things that divide us inside we can then look at the issues within our families, communities and the planet – mother earth as a whole. It all starts within. Me, You, Us. Not You, Him, Her and Them. A lack of inner acceptance for our own differences within will prevent us from having the capacity to accept others for their differences. Our beliefs govern what we accept and what we reject.

Our Religious beliefs come with rules and boundaries. If we are parents then those beliefs are ‘sometimes’ transferred to our children, sometimes they’re not, if our children don’t have the same beliefs as we do; we sometimes have to make a choice (acceptance or rejection) between our religion and our children, this can happen when our children decide to marry someone who doesn’t have the same faith or religion.

Our Cultural beliefs come with rules and boundaries. If we are parents then those beliefs are ‘sometimes’ transferred to our children, sometimes they’re not, if our children don’t have the same beliefs as we do; we sometimes have to make a choice (of acceptance or rejection). A common cultural belief is one should marry someone from the same race or cultural background.

Our Political beliefs can also come with rules and boundaries. Political views aren’t as strict as Religious or Cultural views in some countries. However, there is a strong sense of disconnection if two families come together from opposing camps or who follow different political parties such as Labour and Conservative (UK) or Democrats and Republicans (USA).

A close look at your Race connections and disconnections within your direct family structure will bring with it, an understanding of how complicated we are as the offspring of two parents. Whether they are alive or dead, they will have influenced us in some way or another – negatively or positively.

Gender stereotypes are said to be a thing of the past, but are they? How many families run a balanced household where responsibility is shared or managed with love. Cultural belief’s supply us with much needed direction on how to run a household when either parent is working but how many of these belief’s have become outdated with the new advent of women going out to work. One should encourage open conversation and views to be heard, not manipulate your other-half by shutting down or ignoring them when he/she says something, you’re don’t agree on.

Forgiveness is part of our journey in healing the pains we have carried for sometimes many years, our workshops and webinars offer plenty of support for those taking it one step at a time. Forgiveness can be a quick or a slow process. However long it takes doesn’t matter, because the positive effects it will have on the next generation will be priceless.