If I forgive you – Phase 5

If I forgive you

Will that set me free from the anger, fear, pain or mental health condition that has plagued my life for so long?

If I forgive you, I can love me.

Your mission towards self-love is littered with people, experiences and memories which very often prevent you from accepting yourself as good enough. Without someone else being given the God like authority to decide that you are allowed to be released from the self-hate that has been handed over to you, you can spend the rest of your life stuck. Stuck like a bird in a cage, stuck like a mouse on a wheel, living in bad dream.

Confused?

Let me explain. I believe every experience we have in our waking and sleeping life can leave or have a positive or negative impact on us.

Food for thought

This can be likened to the food we eat. Every time we eat something, it is processed by our digestion system which decides what parts of the food can be used as nutrients to help the body function better. The non-nutrients or the foods that cannot be used by the body are quickly queued up to be sent to the toilet for flushing.

Unhealthy experiences

If a person says or does something which makes us feel good or bad about ourselves, depending on how it makes us feel, our mind decides whether or not to hold onto this information. Like food, this information can either nourish our thoughts with positivity or plague them with negativity. 

This experience or food doesn’t need to be experienced or eaten again and again for us to hear it repeated in our minds; reason why, is because our minds have the ability to repeat it to us at will on a daily basis. Either making us suffer or rejoice.

If we feed ourselves with a multitude of positive experiences or food then when something negative happens it will be smothered in healthy food and will be quickly queued up to be sent to the toilet for flushing. In other words, we will not focus on it but will easily discard the experience and move on. 

Our minds are very complicated yet, if we learn to feed it healthy food when we do experience unhealthy food we will be able to effectively flush it out or at least prevent that negative food from having a major effect on our lives. 

Sometimes this is out of our control, such as when we are young and or dependant on someone else for our care. When we suffer at the hand of someone else, this force feeding of unhealthy rotten food via any of our body’s senses, requires the releasing by forgiveness.

(excerpt from the book ‘it’s never too late to love yourself’)